March 23, 2010 by Zale.

Right now, you are probably overwhelmed with feelings and emotions.  How will this change my life?  What will people think?  How am I going to tell my parents or friends or husband (who is not the father)?

Stop.  Take a deep breath.  Believe it or not, it will be okay.  Every child is a blessing.  That child is a gift from God, whether you believe it or not.  You essentially have three options, one of which is terrible.  They are:

• Parenting the child: Regardless of your situation, this is difficult, but generally you can do it.  If you choose to take this route, find a support network to surround yourself with and DO NOT BE AFRAID to ask for their help.  Find an accepting church.  Find your local crisis pregnancy center.  Let them help you.  God will lead you through this.  Let Him bless you in this, even though it is never easy.

• Adoption:  As an attorney I get to share in the joy of this with people.  This allows for the child to go to a loving and nurturing home, if you can’t provide that.  You can also arrange it so that you see the child, so the child is not completely removed from your life. Statistically there are more qualified families looking for babies than there are babies for adoption in the US, so the child will find a good placement.

• Abortion:  Its murder, plain and simple.  The fetus is alive at the point of conception, which is well before the mother realizes she is pregnant.  A fetus is not just a blob of tissue, as abortion advocates would like for you to believe.  Whether an abortionist chooses the surgical methods, which brutally dismember the child, or the chemical methods, which callously starve the child, it is still the taking of your baby’s life.  The Roe case, which brought about all the abortion clinics and alleged “rights”, was based on lies and it is unfortunate that those lies still impact so many lives today.  If you are considering this option or are being pressured into this option, find a local crisis pregnancy center.  They live to help women in your situation.

I hope and pray that this will help you in your tough situation.  Furthermore, my office is always happy to assist you in dealing with the options above.  Be brave and don’t let others twist your arm and coerce you into doing something you don’t want to do.

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March 11, 2010 by Zale.

Much of the Juvenile Law I deal with has to do with parents who struggle being parents.  Physically and biologically, they seem to be able to bring children into this world, but after that, they are lost.  The remedy for this is often adoption.  The beauty of most adoptions is that the child is truly wanted.  A court order will never replace the connection or relationship with a biological parent, but that court order sure goes along way toward helping the child grow into a successful, well balanced adult.

What’s more is that adoptions are spiritual.  As a non-Jew, God has adopted me into the fold of His family.  I guess that’s why I enjoy doing adoptions so much.  It’s a lot like our relationship with God.

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